It’s about time we answer the questions from the search terms again. Our readers clearly have some interesting ways of getting here….
can long distance courtship lead to marriage?
Sure it can. Doesn’t mean it will, and it’s got its own set of complications, but as long as you’re being sane, honest, and respectful, “it can” is the best that can be said for any relationship, at a distance or otherwise.
why would a seminarian block a girl on facebook
Because he doesn’t want to interact with her on Facebook.
Seminarians are just guys, often young guys, who happen to be going to school to learn to serve God in a specific way. That doesn’t make them magic. Treat it like a breakup, and take good care of yourself.
dating orthodox christian and waiting for sex
Yeah, good call.
love ages bracket
There isn’t one, exactly. I’m a fan of the xkcd rule for a rough check of “Is this sensible?”, but ultimately I ask 3 questions:
1. Are we in the same place in life?
2. Is the power dynamic healthy?
3. What does my mother/mentor/wise friend think?
is it rude to ask are you alright?
Not generally, especially if you ask quietly or in private, use a pleasant and not condescending tone of voice, and actually listen to the answer.
why do people preface a statement by saying i dont mean to be creepy but
They want a free pass on saying creepy things. Don’t give it to them.
is gaslighting a spiritual warfare?
I’m not sure what you’re asking, but if someone has been gaslighting you, run fast. Healing from gaslighting sure does involve spiritual warfare, so take very good care of yourself and talk to people you can trust.
how does a man with russian orthodox date a woman
With respect, warmth, and a sense of humor, I hope.
nice vocabularies for courting a girl
For compliments, try funny, delightful, charming, warm, confident, lovely, stunning, gorgeous, smart, witty, and creative. For topics of discussion, perhaps books, hobbies, funny anecdotes, or shared interests. If you want to speak more eloquently, read well-written books, listen to radio programs and podcasts with high standards, and/or join Toastmasters.
orthodox christian match card game
I don’t know what this is, but let’s totally make one and play it. I love board games. This could be the saintly version of Guess Who, or Apples to Apples, or….
spiritual warfare for run away boyfriend relationship
I…what? Did he run away on you, or do you want to run away with him? If A, then pray an Akathist—either Supplication to heal your heart, Thanksgiving that you dodged that bullet, or For Your Enemies if you want to break his nose but think your spiritual father would frown on that.
If B, then don’t. Just don’t. It’s a terrible idea.
hardcore bored priest wives
wont date me because i’m not orthodox christian
Oh dear, being rejected for any reason hurts. I’m sorry for your pain.
Sometimes it doesn’t make sense when a person says “X is important to me, and you’re not X, so let’s not date,” especially if you don’t understand the full meaning of X, how it matters, or why it should prevent two such lovely people from dating. With faith it gets especially tricky, but please trust that the other person knows what they need—it’s good that they were able to communicate. I’d like to invite you to church if you’re curious about Orthodoxy, but regardless I hope you find just the right person for you. As always with a breakup or rejection, please take good care of yourself and spend time with people you love.
coping with an introverted spouse
Talk with your spouse about the social and personal needs you and they have, both of your expectations around those, and ways to compromise. Many priests do marital counseling. And in the meanwhile, read this.
now that im single life is a blessing
Hurrah! Happy to hear it.
can heartache taint one’s faith
Oh honey. Please make some time for a good long talk with a priest or nun you trust. Heartache alone does not have the power to taint your faith, but if your heart hurts it can be hard to trust that God is taking care of you. You are not alone, and you (and your faith) are not tainted, damaged, or lessened by your pain. Please gather your friends and people you trust to support you. In times like this, I recommend rereading the life of Fr. Arseny and saying the Akathist of Thanksgiving. You can listen to it being sung beautifully here.
3 ways (well intentioned) men creep out women
Creepiness means that the creepy person didn’t have emotional permission for what they did.
1. Doing something too intimate/romantic when they’re not on those terms with each other.
2. Treating her like a stereotype instead of a human being—because all women like roses!*
3. Not listening to what she says or not taking it seriously. Mr. Collins, I’m looking at you.
the f*** happened to common courtesy
I feel your pain. The courtesy article is here.
thoughts on single status
Hm. Can be a lot of fun, and comes with a lot of freedom and other blessings. Can be lonely if your support network is a bit thin, and it’s nice to have a designated person to go dancing with, to celebrate holidays with, and to bring you soup when you’re sick (and to bring soup to). Like most things, it’s what you make of it. You can glorify God in any case.
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*I really do love roses.